I really enjoyed reading this and can definitely relate! I really struggle with small talk, I just can’t do it at all and in those situations, I just have a completely blank mind. It’s meant that people judge me as shy at best and rude at worst. Neither of those things are true, I just can’t think of anything to add to a conversation that seems pointless to me!
I’ve always felt a little bit selfish for only wanting to (or being able to) talk about things that I find interesting but as I’ve researched more, it’s actually just an inherent part of the way we’re wired, so we’re interested or we’re not and if we’re not, then trying to force interest usually doesn’t work.
I think there’s a great skill in being able to do small talk well but I will never be one of those people and I’m pretty happy with that, I’d much rather save myself for the deep conversations that fill my cup.
For me when I feel like I'm "on the spot," in a situation, I also go blank. Like, completely blank. This happens all the time. Sometimes it causes conflict because the other person thinks I'm being rude or just don't want to talk.
Instead, I literally have no words or even ideas on what to say. I've been like this my entire life.
So, I agree, I too will never be skilled in small talk with just the right things to say on the spot.
I really enjoyed reading this and can definitely relate! I really struggle with small talk, I just can’t do it at all and in those situations, I just have a completely blank mind. It’s meant that people judge me as shy at best and rude at worst. Neither of those things are true, I just can’t think of anything to add to a conversation that seems pointless to me!
I’ve always felt a little bit selfish for only wanting to (or being able to) talk about things that I find interesting but as I’ve researched more, it’s actually just an inherent part of the way we’re wired, so we’re interested or we’re not and if we’re not, then trying to force interest usually doesn’t work.
I think there’s a great skill in being able to do small talk well but I will never be one of those people and I’m pretty happy with that, I’d much rather save myself for the deep conversations that fill my cup.
Thank you, Allie. So true!
For me when I feel like I'm "on the spot," in a situation, I also go blank. Like, completely blank. This happens all the time. Sometimes it causes conflict because the other person thinks I'm being rude or just don't want to talk.
Instead, I literally have no words or even ideas on what to say. I've been like this my entire life.
So, I agree, I too will never be skilled in small talk with just the right things to say on the spot.